Several thousand women, several thousand interviews, one female orgasm and four techniques how women can achieve it. This has been elaborated by the latest study, which breaks the false image promoted by the media and the pornographic industry, according to which the mere penetration of the vagina by the penis is guaranteed to lead to orgasm.
According to international sexual and reproductive organizations, sexual satisfaction, sexual pleasure and excitement, the ability to increase excitement and enjoy sex in general, is a basic human right, not just a solution to a psychological or health problem.
Research shows that the more women can enjoy sex, the happier, more satisfied they are, have lower stress levels, experience less anxiety and depression, and are more satisfied in their relationship because they experience better intimacy. A positive sexual experience and the right to it can also be found in their declarations on sexual rights. But how is it in reality?
Porn, fake porn…
Currently, young people rely on pornographic content and the depiction and explanation of sex through pornography due to the absence of sex education (if it is not absent, then young people are not satisfied with its content). And this is a mistake due to its exposure and unreality (as we mentioned in previous articles), escalating violence and orientation towards a male audience, i.e. purely male needs and fantasies (sex is not a “one-way ticket”).
If you look at previous research, they claim that only 25-30% of women achieve orgasm during sexual intercourse – but they do not distinguish between penetration and ways of stimulating the clitoris, which comes out as the key to achieving sexual pleasure and orgasm.
57% versus 95%? Orgasm in women and men
To begin with, a survey conducted by Cosmopolitan magazine (a sample of more than 2,300 women aged 18-40, 2015):
- 57% of women confirmed that they reach orgasm every time or most of the time during sex with their partner, but 95% of men reach orgasm every time or most of the time during sex with their partner. The most common obstacles are: 50% of women are “almost there, but I can’t get past the last step to orgasm”, 38% of women talk about insufficient clitoral stimulation, 35% of women about “wrong” clitoral stimulation from their partner and 32% of women are “too much in their own head ” or makes sure they look good during sex
- 78% of women believed that partners care about achieving orgasm, but 72% of men work their way to orgasm without helping women achieve theirs
- 33% of women did not fake an orgasm, 67% did. To the question “why”, they answered: 28% of women because of their partner and his feelings (so that he doesn’t feel bad, but feels satisfied), 27% of women because of a faster end to sex, because they felt that they would not reach orgasm, 42% of women gave both of these options and 3% of women entered “other reasons”
- When asked how women achieve orgasm, they answered: 39% of women by masturbating with a hand or a sex toy, 20% of women by vaginal penetration and clitoral stimulation, 15% of women by penetration without stimulation, 12% of women by oral sex, 9% of women by their partner’s hand, 2 % of women with a sex toy in the hands of their partner and 3% of women stated “another way”
- Age at first orgasm was given by women as follows: 9.5% of women were less than 11 years old, 14% 11-13 years old, 19% 14-16 years old, 27% 17-19 years old, 18% 20-24 years old, 4% of women 25-29 years old, 1% 30-34 years old, 0.5% 35-40 years old and 7% of women did not remember
By stimulating the clitoris for more intense sexual pleasure…
In another study (2017), they examined the orgasms of American women aged 18-94. The results showed that for 18.4% of the women interviewed, penetration of the vagina with the penis alone was enough to achieve orgasm, for 36.6% of women penetration alone was not enough, stimulation of the clitoris was also necessary, and 36% of women said that stimulation was not necessary during penetration, but sexual pleasure, excitement and orgasm itself were better and more intense with her.
One of the authors of Psychology Today, psychologist, sex therapist and professor at the University of Florida, Laurie Mintz, conducted a similar survey among her students. 43% of them confirmed that they achieve orgasm during sexual intercourse by stimulating the clitoris, 34% achieve it only by stimulating the clitoris, 19% achieve orgasm rarely, if at all, and only 4% of female students need sexual intercourse, i.e. penile penetration, to achieve it. This is quite an important result.
… but what is the clitoris?
The problem is that few people are interested in what a woman’s vagina actually looks like, what it is made of, which parts make up the clitoris, where are the nerve endings, the stimulation of which can increase a woman’s excitement. Then we should not be surprised that according to the WHO, 8-21% of women experience pain during penile penetration.
The clitoris is not just a protrusion visible to the eye, but an organ extending deep into the vagina. It consists of 18 parts – a mix of muscles, nerves and erectile tissues, all of which work together during arousal. Its length is 7-12 cm and during excitement it swells and increases up to 50-300%. Many doctors believe that the G-spot is only part of it.
The clitoris contains an average of 8,000 nerve endings (twice the number of nerve endings in the penis). Other nerve endings sensitive to touch also include other external parts of the female genitalia, i.e. the vulva – the inner lips and the entrance to the vagina.
And the first third of the vaginal canal also contains them, which does not mean that the other two thirds are not sensitive endings, they just react more to pressure, which explains why many women like the feeling of a penis or a sex toy in the vagina.
4 techniques to achieve orgasm
Plos One magazine published the latest research this year, which took a rather (until then) unconventional look at achieving orgasm (during penetration): first it interviewed 4,270 women aged 18-plus from around the world to pinpoint the four most important techniques, then it focused on American women (3017 women aged 18-93, online research) to verify practices:
- About 70% of women stimulate the clitoris with a finger or a sex toy during the penetration of the vagina with the penis (or sex toy).
- About 76% of women move their penis or sex toy in such a way that it rubs (stimulates) against the clitoris, constantly during the entire penetration, while the penis remains inside the vagina, so there is no penetration – by moving in and out
- About 84% of women concentrate on penetration only at the point of entry into the vagina (so-called shallow penetration) – with a finger, tip of the penis, tongue, lips, sex toy (excitement, subsequent penetration into the vagina, or orgasm, women described as more pleasurable and satisfying )
- About 88% of women “rotate”, turn, raise or lower their hips/pelvis during penetration to influence/accommodate the friction of the penis, sex toy. It was about the position and angle of a woman’s hips as a way to achieve greater sexual excitement and orgasm
The results show that the clitoris is key. Three of the four techniques involve stimulation of the clitoris, and during penetration, women intensify their sexual excitement by applying pressure to the inner clitoris. These findings are all the more important because they disprove the “myth” created by pornographic images, according to which women can achieve intense orgasms only by penile penetration or toys.
They are also important for the support of women who are unhappy with the inability to reach orgasm just from penetration. Orgasm can be achieved in different, different ways than is widely advertised and portrayed. Therefore, it is better to focus on getting to know your own body, communicating your sexual needs and walking proudly and confidently towards their fulfillment.